When To Say The Three Sweet Words?

Probably the biggest predicament that you will face while dating: Do you tell her that you love her? Do you just say those three sweet words and get it off your chest?  Is it really love or infatuation that you’re feeling? Should you tell her today or wait for a while? Will she say she loves you back or will you lose her forever? Does she feel the way you do or only regard you as a friend? How will you tell her exactly? Questions… question… so many questions in your head!! Sounds familiar? Sadly enough, there is no one correct answer that will make all your fears disappear. It all depends on a number of situations and most importantly on the individuals involved. However, you can surely consider a few things to understand your feelings first before you actually decide to approach your princess.

Feelings and emotions can be confusing. You need to look deep within yourself to be positively sure that what you feel is in fact love. The most important thing is for you to be true to yourself! Hot steamy sex can often be confused for love; while it may just be lust. For a while, change your focus from her body to her mind. Do you often find yourself smiling when you think of her? Do you catch yourself daydreaming of her when you’re apart? Do you miss her when you have not seen each other for a while? Can you remember the features of her face, her beautiful smile and the feeling she gives you when she looks at you when you close your eyes?  Do you feel like this always or just when you are intimate? Can you picture waking up to her face for the rest of your life? If you have answered yes to all of the above, then your emotions are already pretty strong!

The second very important factor to consider is time! Have you been dating for a few weeks or a month? At the beginning of any relationship with the excitement of discovering and getting to know each other, everything seems perfect. The sex is mind blowing, each day you are discovering something new about her, she looks so pretty, you love the way she keeps calling or texting you when you’re apart etc. You’re having so much fun and feeling things that you never felt before that the whole experience can easily be mistaken as love! You need to be with her for a longer time till the novelty fades out and then decide. Do you still find her as attractive as when you first met? Do you like spending as much time with her or you rather prefer to hang out with your mates instead? Do you have to make excuses and lie to get out of having to see her? Are her habits that you found so adorable before, suddenly started to irritate you? Are you checking out and flirting with the new secretary at work? With time, the way we feel about people changes. Not necessarily in the bad sense, but after having spent a lot of time together you will  know more about what makes her tick. If you feel that you can live with all her habits nice or irritating and are still just as ga ga over her as when you first met, then you are really in fact in love. If you however don’t feel it and realize it was infatuation, be honest to yourself and save you both from unnecessary pain.

Now that you are positive that you are in love, how do you want to go about it? Before you tell her you may wan to look for some non verbal cues that she is sending out. Does she look at you in a loving way Do her eyes light up each time she see’s you? Is it easy for you to talk to her about everything and anything that’s on your mind and when you do does she listen to you with concern and seem genuinely interested? Does she give you priority over everything else to a certain extent? If you feel that your lady is generally interested in your life and you, then good chances are that both of you are on the same track and she may just be waiting for you to make the first move. Make sure that she is in that point of time in her life that she is free and ready to commit to any one person in her life.

Ok, so now that you are all ready to commit, make sure that the first time you express those three sweet words, you make it a memorable moment that should be able to make her smile even years after. Don’t say it to her during or right after sex as she may confuse it for you enjoying the sex. Don’t ell her over an email or phone either. It’s a no no to tell her at a hurried moment when she’s about to go out the door or when she’s shopping as she will be distracted at the time. Take time and plan it, the best would be to say it when you both are sitting relaxed, sipping on some wine perhaps, looking at the setting sun!!

Hopefully when you do tell her, however you decide to tell her, her eyes light up and a big smile spreads over her lips and she reciprocates by telling you she loves you too. Just in case that does not happen, don’t be sad or disheartened or panic. I may just take her a while to let it all sink in and understand her feelings too. She may need some time to think about it and if she’s the shy kinds then work up the courage to say it back to you. For some people it’s just not so easy to express themselves.

As a basic rule, being truthful to yourself and your partner about your feelings is a positive thing. Its not cool to be with someone who you don’t feel emotionally attached to, but you do it anyways out of feeling obligated. Nor is it okay to make light of someone else’s feelings. Love is a beautiful thing when shared between the right people it changes your outlook on life. If you want to start something special and lasting make sure to throw in the most important ingredient of honestly, even if it opens up the possibility of your own feelings getting hurt. By saying those three sweet words, you are making a transition from dating to a serious commitment. So make sure to embark on this wonderful journey with a clear head and on the right foot! Good luck to all you lads out there!!