Types of Openers - Continued

No Opener - you actually ain’t got to use an opener. Just start talking to girls or simply open in mid-conversation as if you already know each other. Just start telling people things as if they were your mates, but with no explicit pretext for chatting to them.

If you’re going to use this type of ‘opener’, avoid communicating good qualities about yourself. When a girl is wondering why you’re chatting to her, she’ll be more likely to notice tiny details in your words and interpret them as a boastful attempt to get her.

Screening Openers - Here, you’re making your intentions pretty clear, as in a direct opener. But instead of making her decide if she’s curious about you, you just imply that you’re trying to decide if you’re interested in her. You can do this any time but it’s best in night-time environments in which flirting is pretty much on everyone’s mind, such as bars and nightclubs.

They also work best with smaller groups as most girls will be extremely

reluctant to present themselves to you in front of their mates.

Screening openers are meant to communicate your intentions but if executed properly and in a playful manner, you’ll have a much better chance of gaining her interest because you’ve demonstrated self-confidence by approaching her in such a way.

Direct Openers - these carry by far the highest risk but at the same time offer the greatest reward. Such openers are most useful when approaching a woman on her own. Direct openers usually force a girl to decide whether or not she’s interested in getting you know you.

However, she might not know nothing about you except the way you look, dress and behave, on top of the opener you’ve just given her of course.

So, it’s important your initial verbal and non-verbal communication be very strong. You’re more like to succeed with a direct opener if you make your interest in her clear. Most girls will at least give you a fair share of credit for your self-confidence. If successful, you move to a normal conversation right away without the need for transition.

Before You Open Check-list

• Be smiling, laughing and generally having a good time.
• Display confidence through body language.
• Be the leader of your social group.
• Have girls, fit or average looking, already around you as this will do make you more interesting to the ones you fancy.
• Don’t move or look around too much.
• If poss, try and be with cool people as this seemingly conveys high social value.
• Be social, rather than predatory. If you’re looking around like a tiger looking for girls to chat up, they will certainly notice and get defensive.