Storytelling

A story can take from as short as thirty seconds to as long as thirty minutes to tell. In a loud nightclub, though, nobody is gonna listen to you longer than a minute or two, so try and keep your stories brief.

Make sure you get everybody’s attention before you start. If you ain’t got their attention, try to be louder or stop for their attention. If you lose somebody’s attention while telling them a story, stop and get their attention back.

The biggest mistake many men make is they ain’t living the story.

Your stories should relate to personal experiences because you need to be able to draw upon these when delivering the story. For instance, if you’re telling a story about a party at your mate’s, you need to be able to immerse yourself in the party.

You also need to be interested in the story you’re telling or nobody will be interested either. Take your new mates on an exciting journey with you. Try and personalise your openers, stories to things you’re really passionate about.

Tonality

Volume - be louder. Most guys at bars and clubs are way too quiet. There’s absolutely no magic trick to this, just try and speak with greater volume. You might lose a bit of your voice from doing this initially which is actually a good thing.

Your vocal muscles will become stronger after exertion and a recuperation period. A confident, commanding voice is also a very powerful tool. In contrast, a quiet and timid voice is extremely unattractive to girls.

Speed - try and pace your delivery. An awful lot of blokes speak far too quickly, particularly when first meeting a girl. This indicates nervousness. Try and adopt the attitude that you’re interesting and what you’ve got to say is interesting and you’re accustomed to people listening to you.

Pitch - try and deepen your voice. Your voice should come from your chest, not your throat. Try putting your hand on your chest, below your pectorals and talk in 2 different ways: one where you can feel the vibrations and one where you can’t. Train yourself to speak in such a way you can actually feel the vibrations.

Variability - use vocal modulation. Allow your voice to acquire a variable rhythm and tone. It can be used to express emotion otherwise you will sound flat and could have a hard time retaining anybody’s interest.

Body Language - good body language is calm, confident and relaxed while bad body language is associated with insecurity, defensiveness and nervousness. Generally speaking, an uncomfortable position can and often does convey low status. This remains valid whether a position is comfortable for you. Higher-status men don’t tend to force themselves into awkward or uncomfortable positions.