Peer Group Approval

Winning the approval of a girl’s group doesn’t happen by chance. We always find ways to bring value to her mates through such things as telling them jokes, talking about their interest or implying that you’ll introduce them to people they want to meet.

There are countless ways to bond with people. You can bond with most girls over pop culture, fashion, celeb gossip etc. Once mutual attraction and comfort with a girl has been established, you should next look for an opportunity to show your interest in her to her mates. What happens next is crucially important. If her mates tell you good qualities about her, it’s a clear sign they want you to pursue her.

By so doing when she ain’t around, they’re somehow complicit in the growing courtship, so long as she remains interested in you. It wouldn’t be consistent to see their mate interested in you, to encourage you to pursue her by telling you good qualities about her, and then discourage you two from getting to know each other later.

The main downside of making your interest explicit to her mates is very small. They will know that you’re interested in her anyway. You’re also sure to find out how they all know one another early on, so you can assess the situation. If her mates object to your interest and you somehow ain’t noticed this up to this very point, then you’d rather learn about this sooner than later.

Maybe one of her mates objects to you on grounds you can comfortably deal with, in which case it’s way better to address the ongoing issue than to leave her as a hostile element within her group.