How To Approach A Girl

Do you find it difficult to approach a girl? Have you got the guts to chat her up? Well, approaching a bird is no rocket science and anyone can learn to do it. Our simple tips below are sure to make your life easier. Find out how:

The First Few Seconds

When you see a girl you’re interested in, approach her right away. Girls like confidence and spontaneity. They hate to be stalked. Wandering about, circling her, staring at her etc. will just turn her off and even creep her out. Try and get into the habit of seeing a fit girl and opening her group.

Body Language and Tonality

Your opener needs to be loud enough it cuts across whatever the group are talking about and gets their attention. Do not shout, but just make it awkward for people not to pay attention to you. And don’t lean in as it makes you look like you’re below the person you are talking to. Just try and be loud enough. Raise and project your voice so that a girl can actually hear you from a standing position.

Approach Anxiety

Starting a conversation with someone you don’t know can be quite scary. Most of us lads have it. The good news is we can learn to deal with it.

Realise rejection ain’t bad

Opening is not a personality test, it’s a skill. Try going out somewhere where people don’t know you and using a ludicrous opener - one that would not work. Do it several times. You won’t die. You will just internalise the relationship between a crappy opener and its rejection into your brain.

Get Warmed Up

Think of your first few approaches as ‘warm ups’. Almost everyone needs to ease into the less than easy process of socialising with strangers. Before going out, you might like to do things that boost your social energy. Ring your mates. Listen to vibrant music. It’s difficult to go straight from being with your PC to being the centre of the party.

Use Opinion Openers

This is perfect for getting over your approach anxiety because you’re just asking a question, after all. You’re not chatting up anyone yet. And as they’re scripted, you can fully focus on their delivery.

Create Incentives

Not that many people like opening. Some set targets of a certain amount of approaches per week. Others go the extra mile and create rewarding/punitive systems if they succeed or fail respectively. For example, you could go out with a mate and give him £200 and have him return £20 to you every time you starts chatting to a new girl. This could end up being a costly try!

Dealing With Other Men

Do not be afraid of mixed groups as they’re generally easier than all-girl groups if you’re using an opinion opener since you can easily direct it at the blokes in a group. If you’re interesting enough to them, the girls will also want to get your attention.