What men do wrong when it’s all going right in a relationship!

The beginning of a relationship is definitely one of the best feeling you can ever experience. It’s that time when you both are getting to know each other, discovering each others habits and needs. Her looks and touch make your heart melt and the sound of her voice is like the sweetest song to your ears. Six months into the relationship and you feel that this is definitely it, it’s all working out great. You both are madly in love and her friends envy her for having such a caring and loving boyfriend. The time you spend together is precious and filled with laughs and the sex is absolutely mind blowing. You still can’t get enough of each other and long to be together when you’re apart.

A year gone by and things are starting to look slightly different than they first were. You’re having small arguments way to often. Her face no longer lights quite as much as it used to when she see’s you. Instead of cuddling up and watching a movie in bed together, she’s often out with her mates. You’re no longer looked up to as the “super cool” boyfriend that you were made out to be by her mates. Hmm.. so why this change in attitude? You ask yourself, ‘What did I do wrong now’??

This is a common problem faced by most men when in a relationship. What you guys don’t understand is that women like to be treated in the same manner that they were on their first date. As time goes by, men often tend to overlook emotions and feelings involved and start to take many things for granted. As you fall into a more comfortable relationship make sure you don’t take the fun out of the things you used to do. Here are a few don’ts that you can follow:

Do not treat your woman like your mother/maid: As couples tend to grow closer a certain behavioral pattern tends to start automatically form. Unintentionally, certain things tend to be taken for granted. From a sexy siren or a real cutie, your woman becomes someone who gives unconditional love or is a tireless listener. While it is healthy to have such feeling to a certain extent, remember lads your woman is not your maid or your mother! Do not take things for granted and remember to take notice or express gratitude when she goes out of her way to do something for you!

Resist temptation: Sure there are a lot of nice looking hotties out there and it’s only natural that you are bound to look if you come across one. That’s how far as it should go. Don’t ogle at some other woman with lustful eyes when you’re out with your girl. That is bound to put her right off you. And if you are happy with the woman you are already with, do not jeopardize what you’ve got just for a fling on the side!

Are you sure you’ve been spending enough time with her doing things that interest her too? Say it’s your day off and you’ve been dreaming all week of catching up with your mates at the golf course. After a long day playing golf for the better half of the day you drop in to your mate’s house for a couple of beers! Get back home and all hell breaks loose! Sounds familiar? ‘Quality Time’ is the key word here. You’re not expected to give up your hobbies but try striking a balance between the two. Do not put your mates, relatives, hobbies, animals etc before her. Nothing should be more important than your relationship. If a woman feel neglected she stops communicating and responding. Try thinking up of some activities that the two of you would enjoy doing together.

Do you think you’re being overly possessive or domineering? Remember never to turn your woman into a possession. Sure, if circumstances call for, you should step up and take charge, but no woman likes to be constantly told what to do, where to go, who she can interact with, what to wear etc. Keep your temper in check and don’t go around making false accusations or being the jealous kinds. Women like their men to be slightly possessive, it makes them feel loved; but there is a big difference between possessiveness and acting like Hitler! Both partners play an equal role in a relationship and none is beneath the other. As long as you’re clear on that, you should be in for a smooth ride!

Don’t try to invoke too much control over your woman. Control freaks are seen as very insecure people who no one likes to be associated with. You don’t have to have the last word in every scenario just because you wear the pants in the house. Avoid power struggles as it leads to nothing but tension and competition among the couple, which has no room in a relationship. Do stand up for what you believe gently.

Don’t be the overly kissy kissy kinds all the time, it just gets boring! It’s nice to let your woman crave for you rather than always throwing it out there all the time. Say the words ‘I love you’, when you actually mean it. That will make her feel loved and wanted.

Don’t let your friends or family dictate your relationship. That’s a very bad idea. No woman would be happy to hear criticism coming especially from your mum, cousins, friends or anyone in your family. Sort out your personal disputes behind closed doors and don’t ever put your loved one down in front of others. It’s just not cool!

Communication! This is definitely the key! Communicate with your partner. You don’t have to hide your fears, needs or feelings just to portray a Macho image all the time. Relax, let your guard down. Talk about things that are disturbing you. If you leave a small issue unresolved and let it keep eating at you, it is bound to turn into a big problem, which will not be pretty later. Talk, let those emotions out. How do you expect to get closer to someone without knowing how they feel?

A combination of all the above factors should definitely help you to always remain number 1 in her books. Good luck to all you out there!!