Attraction

Attraction begins as soon as you start having a normal conversation with a girl and her mates. It officially ends when she becomes interested in you as a man and there is serious potential romantic or sexual interest.

To help explain this, we use the so-called Value Concept. Simply put, it’s how desirable you’re at a specific time to a specific girl. A girl’s value is based upon how desirable she feels to guys in general. When your value becomes greater than hers, she’ll usually become attracted to you.

You know that you’ve just reached this particular point because she’ll allow you to further explore her. You can check your progress by noticing specific signs she’s interested in you.

• A Woman’s Value

This is based on her desirability to men in general. It’s got nothing to do with how desirable you find her. Most men primarily respond to a woman’s attractiveness, making her overall value inevitably tied to her physical looks.

A woman’s value can quickly change based on her social context. Put a fit girl in a room full of average-looking girls and she may feel attractive. Put her in a room full of beauty queens and she may feel average.

A new outfit or a new haircut may also raise her value. Seeing her ex-boyfriend with a gorgeous lady may lower it and so forth. All of this demonstrates that a girl’s value might be different from how fit you think she is.

• A Man’s Value

When you first meet a girl, she probably thinks you’ve got about the same value as other blokes she’s met in similar circumstances. If you approach her at a bar, she may notice the clothes you wear, your body language and appearance in general but she’s very likely to lump you with the loads of low-value men having approached her at bars before.

That said, the social context where you meet a girl doesn’t matter all that much. You can learn to change a girl’s impression of you fairly quickly.